How will you guide your future spouse towards a diamond solitaire?
OUR DIAMOND TIP FOR WOMEN
The difference between men and women when buying diamonds is best explained in John Gray's book "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus". In all our years of experience selling diamonds, we have seen that the difference between Martians and Venusians is huge when it comes to diamonds.
Ladies, if you want to be shocked with a diamond ring, listen to us carefully. We will tell you the secrets you need to know about Martians.
First of all, Martians approach this transaction from a completely different perspective than you do. When it comes to diamonds, Martians are interested in 3 things:
- They want to make a good investment
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They want to make you happy
- They are afraid of disappointing you or worse, being rejected.
The sum of all three points puts Martians in a state of 'total panic' when buying diamonds, because they have never played this game before and the risks are too great.
One thing you need to understand is that Martians are driven by fear of making mistakes. Their pride and desire to surprise you prevent them from asking you clearly which ring you want to wear on your finger for the rest of your life.
Instead, as is typical of Martians, they try to approach the situation directly with logic (the situation is entirely emotional). Martians approach the diamond ring shopping issue in the same way they deal with other problems they encounter in life.
They do research on the subject, gather information and make a logical decision. Because they have no idea what you really want, so they approach it as a good investment.
They try to buy the best quality diamond possible, because they think better quality is a better investment (even if they sacrifice size…) and in the end, a large stone can look rough in your delicate hands.
The Martian's first stop will usually be a jewelry store that he has been passing by for years but has never been in. They look at some diamond rings in the window and panic when they see that there are more zeros on the labels than their own cars. Remember, this is the first time in their lives that they have spent such a large amount of money on someone other than themselves. Of course, they want to make you happy, but they never thought it would be this expensive.
When they finally muster up the courage to ask the jeweler a few questions about diamonds, they realize that they know nothing about diamonds. If you ask them about sports, cars or music, they are very comfortable because that is their area of expertise.
Also, ask them about white gold, green gold, round or radiant cut or ring size, they have no idea. When the jeweler explains the 4Cs (color-clarity-cut-carat) to them, they relax a little. Because these are logical explanations. Your Martian thinks that the shopkeeper knows everything and tells everything for the benefit of the Martian.
After all, do all doctors tell the truth? Eventually your Martian starts thinking about the characteristics that he can understand and be comfortable with, such as clarity-color-cut-certification-fluorescence, which you would never care about.
The Martian's shopping adventure becomes even more stressful when he learns about fake diamonds or diamonds that have been graded higher than the real thing in the jewelry world. Now his desire to shop is overshadowed by the fear of making a costly mistake.
They forget that their main priority is to make you happy and make it their priority not to make mistakes. They push all channels where they can get information about diamonds.
During all their efforts, another alarm goes off in the Martian's head. They realize that the price tag on an average diamond ring is at least twice the amount they were planning to buy. Panic rises again, they have to allocate a larger budget and buy a smaller ring than they thought.
Yes ladies, this is where you can help yourself to have the ring of your dreams. If you understand the difficult process your Martian is going through, you will know how much help he needs. If he is determined that this event should be a surprise, try to tell him in various ways what kind of ring you like. But first of all, you need to know for sure what kind of ring will please you.
Browse the shops and decide on the symptoms below,
- What cut and size do you like?
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Which setting do you like? (single stone – three stones?)
- Which material do you want? (white gold – green gold – platinum)
- What is your ring size?
Don't give false information. You'd be surprised how much Martians value what you say about rings. If you show a ring in a window, even if you just show it off, your Martian will perceive it as you wanting to wear that ring for the rest of your life. Comments like "no need for a big diamond" or "I'll like whatever you buy" will have a huge impact on the ring you buy.
Once you've chosen the ring style of your dreams, make it clear to your Martian in some way.
Surprises are nice, but there is no harm in sharing some information with your Martian so that you can wear the ring of your dreams for years to come. Most couples shop together for diamond rings. Couples who have decided to get married and spend their lives together see choosing a ring together as the first experience of their marriage. Most couples go to the jeweler together, you tell them which cut and model you like the most, with this information your Martian can still surprise you by buying you a ring in the style you want.